a forceful push to grow up

E really challenges me to grow into adult, day after day. Even when I simply want to argue with her, try to boss her around, or to be negative in an immature way - she reminds me that I am the adult. Sometimes I want to lay in the mud and think bad thoughts of something or someone.... she is truly the reminder that there is always a reason or an experience behind the way the person is behaving. How does this happen? I have birthed a Shaman or a Buddist. Someone that is wise and kind.... all the time.